Rambling about Friends

What is the big deal about men & women being friends??!!!? Are women that insecure about themselves to where there man, husband, male associate or whatever ,he is to them can't have a female friend. I'm just one of those females that seem to have better relationships with males than females. It seems like all my male friends have females who start off being cool then next thing you know they accuse you of wanting him. Or shall i say they tell him or another mutual friend cause although its how they feel they ain't woman enough to confront you...so what's the point of saying it??!!? Its funny to me cause in most cases I've been the friend before the chic came along and its like ummm.. if i wanted him why wouldn't i have already had him..hahaha..or maybe i did and it didn't work out and our friendship was something worth holding on too...ummm...makes you wonder ,uh. I just say remember ladies if he values the friend and you start trying to make him change the people he has been around, If he is not whipped ,then nine times out of ten he ain't changing and you have now cause a problem in your relationship because now you don't trust him.. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that you shouldn't show a lil jealously if your man has a female friend but what I am saying is that not all female friends , want your man.I mean honestly how many females out there really don't have a male friend?? So why is it ok for you to have a friend but not ok for him to have a female friend. Its that whole double standard shit...I honestly feel that men and women can be friends. I believe that if they set the boundaries for there friendship, then both parties are aware of what the other person wants out of there friendship...then u can have a successful friendship. Just think about it...i might be making sense.

XOXOXO..